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The ScapeGOAT

Sun, 11 May 2025 20:04:40 GMT

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My Narcissistic Parents Did This For Years

Wed, 23 Apr 2025 18:21:35 GMT

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If you've ever been/felt silenced by a parent who prioritized their image over your well-being. You’re not alone. They likely made you believe that expressing your feelings was wrong and that your pain was a burden.

It’s heartbreaking to think that your voice, needs, and emotions might have been seen as sources of discomfort for them. Personally, I was told that my emotions and my needs were inconvenient.

For survivors of abuse—whether physical, emotional, or spiritual—the silence imposed on you wasn’t just intolerable; it was subtle or forced that posed serious doubts, lies, and risks that threw you into survival mode. Not to mention, how this affects your emotional safety into adulthood.

You may have been conditioned to hide your truth, to downplay your hurt, and to doubt your own feelings. Many were taught not to trust their instincts, to hold back their tears, to suppress their needs, and ultimately, to deny their very essence. what I’ve learned is that bearing the pain does not make the feelings and memories go away. All they do is further complicate them when you try to unearth the past.

Silence doesn’t simply vanish with childhood; it lingers, shaping who you are. Can you relate to any of this?

Do you find yourself shrinking in spaces that should feel safe? Do you apologize frequently, even when you’re in the right? Do you grapple with the feeling that your presence might be too overwhelming, or perhaps never enough?

If this resonates, Then your silence was on purpose, but you are not alone in this fight.

My Story (And Maybe Yours Too)

I understand the burden of walking on eggshells, the overwhelming need to stay small in order to keep the peace. I learned early on that speaking out could lead to backlash, and honesty often resulted in punishment. So, I plunged everything deep within—my fear, my anger, and even my joy.

It took me years to come to terms with the reality that silence wasn’t a form of protection; it was a way to suppress my true self. The toll it took was my ability to express my voice. To tell my story.

Perhaps you relate. Your experiences may differ, but the feelings often echo the same. That heavy tension, the constant second-guessing, and the deep ache of feeling unheard are all too real.

Here’s the heartfelt truth:

That silence didn’t just take your voice away; it shaped your perception of yourself. It instilled doubt about your reality, encouraged you to push aside your feelings, and made you erase your story before anyone had the chance to challenge it. but the real answer is that no one can take your story away.

The pain belongs to you. The betrayal, the heartache and the disgust. But this doesn’t mean this is your forever existence. in fact, this is your breakthrough to reclaim your story and who you really are. And not who they said you were, but who healing says you are.

So what if you could begin to reclaim your narrative?

What if the journey of healing begins not with trying to fix everything at once but with sharing one small truth at a time?

What if the most courageous step you could take was to stop hiding the story that others wished you would forget?

Let’s Take a Moment to Reflect:

- When was the first time you felt you had to stay quiet?

- Which parts of your story still feel “off-limits” to voice?

- How would your life change if you allowed yourself to be fully seen?

- Even by just one safe person?

You deserve to be heard. Even if your voice quivers in the process. Even if it takes time and courage. Even if not everyone believes or understands your experiences.

You are not too much, and you were never not enough. Your voice has never been the issue. It is, in fact, vital to your healing process.

Your truth matters more than you might realize. It’s how you take back your life, and it truly does make a difference.

You didn’t make up the silence. Neither the emptiness you felt. You didn’t imagine the pain. And your longing to be known is not being over-sensitive — it’s a sign that the deepest part of you is still alive.

Conclusion:

Your silence may not have mattered to them, but it certainly matters to you. They may have ignored your pain, denied your truth, or dismissed your tears, but that does not diminish the significance of your story.

It absolutely matters.

Every moment you survived.

Every feeling you buried.

Every truth you're just beginning to voice—

It all holds weight.

They may have tried to silence you, but healing is about reclaiming your voice. It’s about embracing the story you were denied the chance to tell.

Your voice is powerful.

Your story carries immense weight.

And even if they chose not to listen, you can—and that is what transforms everything.

So what if you stopped hiding the story they told you to forget?

(Not) Waiting On The World To Change

Wed, 16 Apr 2025 14:29:22 GMT

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Accountability. It’s a simple word, but for narcissists, it might as well be a foreign language. The act of admitting harm, taking responsibility, and making amends requires vulnerability, something narcissism instinctively resists. Yet true accountability is the foundation of every healthy relationship. Without it, trust disintegrates, connection erodes, and the people who long to be loved are left carrying the weight of someone else’s choices.

At its core, accountability demands one thing: the courage to face the truth. This truth often isn’t flattering. It involves acknowledging that our words and actions have hurt others—especially those we claim to care about. For narcissists, this admission feels intolerable because it threatens the carefully curated image they’ve worked so hard to project.

It takes an enormous amount of courage to let go of the hope that a narcissist will change, especially when you care deeply for them. But letting go doesn’t mean you’re giving up—it means you’re choosing to release the hold they have on your emotional well-being.

The Blame-Shifting Pattern

When confronted with their harmful behavior, narcissists often default to a predictable pattern:

1. Deflection: They point the finger elsewhere. “I only said that because you made me angry,” or “You’re too sensitive.”

2. Minimization: They downplay the harm. “It’s not that big of a deal,” or “You’re overreacting.”

3. Projection: They turn the blame back on the person they’ve hurt. “If you hadn’t done ‘X-Y-Z' I wouldn’t have reacted that way.”

These tactics serve one purpose: self-preservation. By avoiding the weight of accountability, the narcissist protects their fragile ego at the expense of the relationship.

When They Won’t Change:

Navigating Life with an Unchanging Narcissist

What happens when that change never comes? What do you do when you’re faced with a narcissist who is unwilling—or perhaps incapable—of doing the work?

It’s a heartbreaking reality to face, but it’s one we can navigate with courage, clarity, and compassion—for ourselves.

1. Stop Waiting for the Apology That May Never Come

One of the hardest truths to accept is that you may never get the closure you’re looking for from a narcissist. They may never say, “I’m sorry,” or own the harm they’ve caused. Narcissists often avoid accountability at all costs because it threatens their carefully constructed sense of self.

What You Can Do:

• Create your own closure. Write down what you wish they would say to you. Let yourself grieve the apology that never comes, and remind yourself that their refusal to acknowledge the truth doesn’t invalidate your experience.

• Practice self-compassion. Remind yourself that their inability to apologize is not a reflection of your worth but of their own limitations.

2. Set Boundaries and Hold Them Firmly

Narcissists thrive in environments without boundaries. They test limits, push past “no,” and manipulate situations to maintain control. The most powerful tool you have in these situations is your ability to set and enforce boundaries.

• Be clear and concise. When setting boundaries, less is more. For example: “I’m not comfortable discussing this right now,” or “I need space when you raise your voice.”

• Enforce consequences. Boundaries without consequences are just suggestions. If your boundary is crossed, follow through on what you said you would do—whether that’s leaving the room, ending a conversation, or limiting contact.

• Prioritize self-care. Setting boundaries with a narcissist can be emotionally draining. Give yourself permission to rest and recharge.

3. Stop Trying to Fix or Save Them

Narcissists are skilled at pulling others into the role of caretaker or rescuer. They may play the victim, make promises of change, or draw you into their chaos. But the truth is, you cannot fix or heal someone who refuses to do the work themselves.

What You Can Do:

• Shift your focus inward. Instead of pouring your energy into “helping” them, channel it into your own growth and healing.

• Release the guilt. It’s not your job to save them, and it’s not your fault they refuse to change. You are responsible for your own well-being, not theirs.

4. Manage Your Expectations

A narcissist who is unwilling to change will continue to deflect blame, minimize harm, and avoid accountability. Expecting them to suddenly develop self-awareness or empathy will only lead to disappointment.

What You Can Do:

• Recognize patterns. Pay attention to the behaviors they consistently display. Use these patterns to inform your decisions about how to engage—or not engage—with them.

• Adjust your expectations. Instead of hoping for a drastic transformation, focus on protecting your peace and managing interactions in a way that prioritizes your well-being.

5. Choose Yourself

At the end of the day, you cannot control whether a narcissist changes. The only thing you can control is how you respond. Choosing yourself doesn’t mean you don’t care about them—it means you care about your own mental, emotional, and physical health enough to stop sacrificing it for someone unwilling to meet you halfway.

What You Can Do:

• Consider limiting contact. If the relationship is toxic and causing significant harm, it may be necessary to step back or even cut ties.

• Lean on your support system. Surround yourself with people who validate your feelings, remind you of your worth, and encourage your healing.

• Invest in your healing. Therapy, journaling, support groups, or even creative outlets can help you process your experience and move forward.

The Courage to Step Forward

Remember, you are not defined by how a narcissist treats you. Their unwillingness to change is not a reflection of your value, your worth, or your ability to love.

The work of navigating life with an unchanging narcissist isn’t easy, but it’s possible. And on the other side of that work is a freedom they could never give you, but one you can give yourself. You deserve relationships that are rooted in mutual respect, empathy, and accountability —you are worth it.

Spiritually Called, Not Spiritually Controlled

Wed, 16 Apr 2025 14:27:49 GMT

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Size Doesn’t Matter

Sat, 11 Jan 2025 19:09:25 GMT

Redefining Masculinity and Healing the Inner Child

For most of my life, I felt the crushing pressure to fit into a box. Strength. Dominance. Independence at all costs. But my story isn’t just about failing to fit in. It’s about something deeper.

At the age of six, my life was shattered. I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse.

When I looked in the mirror, I didn’t see strength or power. I saw shame. A boy who was dirty. Unlovable. Broken. The need to belong wasn’t just about fitting in—it was about feeling worthy of love.

To mask the wounds, I tried to prove my masculinity. I performed, I pushed, and I pretended. But behind the facade, that wounded child inside me was slowly dying.

Our understanding of masculinity is shaped by culture. The way society reacts to male survivors and the ways we cope reflect what we believe about men and victimization. And often, the unspoken message is this: men don’t hurt, men don’t cry, and men don’t talk about being vulnerable.

But what happens when you don’t measure up to those standards?

For me, the belief that I wasn’t “man enough” haunted me. It seeped into every part of my life, creating a quiet shame that I couldn’t outrun.

And yet, the truth is this: masculinity isn’t a performance.

It’s not measured by how much you control, conquer, or suppress. It’s not about ticking off society’s boxes or mimicking the images of strength we’ve been handed—whether from John Wayne or the men in our lives.

True masculinity is about something deeper.

For me, it’s about:

• Integrity —choosing honesty, even when it’s uncomfortable.

• Compassion —showing care for myself and others.

• Vulnerability —allowing myself to be seen, even in my imperfections.

• Uplifting others —not tearing people down to feel stronger.

When I clung to toxic definitions of masculinity, I fell into patterns that hurt me—and others. Ridicule, emotional walls, and the fear of looking weak left scars. Along with the trauma of my abuse, I came to the brink of suicide.

What stopped me?

I told myself, “No, I’m not going to end this way.”

That was the turning point. When I began the hard work of healing—of facing my pain, rejecting false expectations, and talking about my story—I started to find freedom.

This is why your story matters.

Childhood abuse, especially for men, often leaves wounds that don’t just heal with time. These wounds can fester beneath the surface, shaping how we view ourselves, how we show up in relationships, and what we believe about our worth. This becomes even more dangerous when men (like I did), bury their pain.

The pain takes time to heal, but you are in the process of connecting your self-worth. I want to reassure you that healing is indeed possible. Reclaiming your childhood isn't about erasing the pain; it's about finding strength in your journey. It’s learning how to redefine what it truly means to be human.

Abuse often thrives in silence, making it essential to acknowledge your experiences. This step isn’t about blaming anyone. What makes it a hard step forward is that you are learning to honor your story and giving yourself permission to grieve. It’s hard to look at your story. Especially when the word taught you to adhere to a certain formula of expectations. When those expectations are not met - due to the abuse - we feel like an utter failure to those who made those demands like: our parents, teachers, pastors, authority figures, and other influential individuals.

Society often places intense pressure on men to conform to a specific image of masculinity, which can obstruct the path to addressing past abuse.

Let me be clear, masculinity isn’t about suppression; it’s about authenticity.

Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Sharing your struggles adds to your strength and highlights your humanity.

Embrace emotional literacy by learning to identify and express your feelings, breaking the chains of emotional suppression that can result from abuse.

Show yourself compassion. True masculinity begins with kindness towards yourself and extends to others.

Within you lies the child you once were, carrying both the hurt and confusion of the past, as well as the potential for healing.

Healing your inner child is not about dwelling in the past; it’s about forging a connection between who you were and who you’re becoming. The journey of healing is rarely linear. Setbacks are natural, and old wounds might resurface from time to time.

Your story is not a source of weakness; it’s a testament to your resilience and a demonstration of your strength.

Consider advocating for other survivors, lending your voice to their experiences.

Write or speak about your journey to inspire and uplift others.

Use your story as a foundation to build a life filled with purpose and authenticity.

The pain you’ve endured doesn’t define you; it’s a part of what equips you to become a man of integrity, compassion, and courage.

When you share your story, you reclaim the power that they took away.

Masculinity isn’t about being perfect or invincible. It’s about being real. Being human. Taking responsibility.

The world doesn’t need more men trapped by oudated rules. It needs men who are brave enough to redefine masculinity with compassion, courage, and truth.

For me, it’s been seven years of sharing my story, but that beats the 40 years I spent living in silence and shame.

Healing, for me, meant going back to the boy I was. Because that boy is still with me—in my memories, my feelings, my reactions, and my very being. Getting to know him was essential.

The fact that you survived into adulthood is proof that, as a child, you were resourceful, creative, and strong. You owe that little boy a debt of gratitude. It’s because of his courage and determination that you’re here today, working toward recovery.

He deserves your respect. Your love. Your friendship. You are the adult he can count on now. You are living proof that he made it through, despite the odds.

Healing isn’t about becoming more masculine or feminine—it’s about reconnecting with your inner child, nurturing the love and safety you never had, and embracing your humanity.

Final Thought:

Reclaiming your childhood from abuse doesn’t mean denying your past. YOu learn how to work through the past feelings to connect yourself to the present. This involves transforming how those experiences shape your life.

True strength is discovered in the courage to confront your pain, the vulnerability to seek connection, and the honesty to live with integrity.

You may not be able to change the past, but you have the power to choose healing. This is your healing. Your story is not over, you now have the opportunity and strength to write the remaining chapters - where you want to end-up.

Remember, the world’s expectations do not lessen or dictate the importance of your story. Your journey and how you choose to share it matters because you never know how your story will help unlock other people’s freedom.

Size doesn’t matter. Your story does.

We Didn't Start the Fire

Sat, 11 Jan 2025 18:35:52 GMT

An Unwelcomed Begining

As children, we often do reckless things. Growing up, I loved playing in the woods with my friends. We used to explore trails and build forts. Once, we even made a fire and pretended we were camping overnight.

Despite my father's warnings about the dangers of fire, my friends dared me to touch a burning log, promising acceptance into their group if I did. Little did I know that this so-called "club" was filled with manipulative and abusive individuals, which sparked the fire of my sexual abuse at six.

When I got home, I tried to conceal the blisters and burn marks on my hands, but my stepmother saw through my lies and identified my burnt hand. This experience taught me that in order to be accepted, I had to do things against my will and lie to endure the pain. Many survivors like me had to navigate life through distorted perspectives, believing that we would be accepted and loved in exchange for giving up our innocence and true selves.

Throughout my life, I avoided allowing myself to feel emotions because I feared they would bring back the trauma I was trying to conceal. Like my burnt hand, I didn't want anyone to see the pain I was hiding. This made growing up difficult as I learned not to trust people, not to trust myself to always be in hiding. I lived this way for decades until I was able to get help.

Into the Fire

Here's what I've learned: when you naturally turn to people for acceptance, nurturing, and protection, and then they reject you, you learn to shut down and ignore your feelings. You're convinced that what you feel does not matter. When abusers manipulate you, you have to find alternative ways to navigate through your feelings. The anger, betrayal, and frustration you feel don't go away. You're forced to find different avenues to reconcile such emotions. Alternatively, you develop another set of problems, which include dissociation, addictions, as well as desiring relationships that are not genuinely healthy.

For years, I never made a connection between how I felt in the present and my experiences from my past. But now, when I look at my burned hand, I instantly remember what happened and the pain I felt. Revisiting that past and many dangerous and darker painful events was the most complex work I've ever experienced. But now that I’m healing, I realize that I'm no longer afraid of acknowledging what happened to me. Like my hand, I've slowly developed the confidence to no longer be afraid. I’m also no longer afraid to let myself be loved.

Healing From The Flames

Healing from emotional pain is like recovering from a burn. The fire of past abuse and trauma may have left scars, but the flames are no longer consuming you. Even today, when those same emotions resurface, it can feel as though you’re still in the fire. The pain feels real, immediate, and overwhelming.

But in those moments, I’ve learned to pause and look at my hands. They remind me that the injury is no longer happening. The fire is gone. While I may feel the ache inside, the outside shows me a truth I sometimes forget—I am healing. My hands, like the rest of me, bear the marks of survival, but they also reveal the progress I’ve made.

I am in a process of renewal, learning to live forward. I am no longer in the same situation that once broke me. Each day, I rediscover how to love and how to receive love—not through fear, but in safety and intention, as it was always meant to be. Healing isn’t linear, but with each step, I leave the fire behind and walk into a life of freedom and hope.

You won't heal what you can't feel.

- Branon

Breaking the Silence: Reclaiming Your Voice From Trauma

Sat, 11 Jan 2025 18:35:51 GMT

Trauma runs deep.

It imprints your mind, impacts your body, and immobilizes your emotions. For many survivors, the pain lingers, whispering lies like “You’re unworthy” or “You’re broken.” But there’s hope.

Talking won’t erase the trauma, but it breaks its power. For much of my life, pain was my constant companion. From the age of six until seventeen, I endured the unspeakable trauma of sexual abuse. At the same time, I lived in a home marked by physical and verbal abuse from my parents, who were supposed to protect me. They exchanged safety and nurturing for fear and shame, with nowhere to turn.

My family’s dynamic only deepened the wounds. I grew up surrounded by narcissistic family members who denied my reality and weaponized my pain. They silenced me with blame, making me feel that speaking out was a betrayal. My hurt became their tool—a means to control me and invalidate my experiences.

Never Negotiate the False Narratives

The shame was suffocating. I learned early on to hide my pain, to bury it deep where no one could see, believing that silence was the only way to survive. But this silence didn’t protect me. Some say silence is golden, but it became my prison. The weight of carrying my trauma alone pushed me into isolation, self-doubt, and a distorted sense of worth. I began to believe the lies I was told—that my voice didn’t matter, that I was broken beyond repair and that I was somehow to blame.

Breaking free from the false narratives wasn’t easy. It took years of confronting the lies and facing my pain. Especially confronting my parents, who were climbing another mountain. I struggled to seek help from people who saw me for who I indeed was—not as someone defined by trauma, but as someone worthy of love and healing. Therapy, safe relationships, and my faith became lifelines. They reminded me that my story, no matter how painful, did not make me unworthy. Instead, it made me human.

Your Voice is Power

Today, I speak out because I know the power of breaking silence. Pain thrives in secrecy, but healing begins when we name our truth. Sharing my story has been among the most challenging yet freeing decisions ever. It’s not about seeking pity or reliving the past—it’s about reclaiming the voice stolen from me. It’s about helping others know they’re not alone.

If you’ve experienced abuse or trauma, know this: your pain is valid, and your story matters. You don’t have to carry it alone. Healing is messy and nonlinear, but it’s possible. Shame loses its death grip when we bring our pain into the light. And while the journey may feel overwhelming, you are worthy of the freedom and peace that comes with it.

I am still healing, still learning to trust, and still working to dismantle the lies I was taught. But here I am. I am no longer silent. To anyone who feels trapped in the shadows of their pain, your voice is powerful and can break the silence.

Here’s what I am practicing: the more I talk about my trauma, the less control it has over me.

Speaking about your pain helps you reclaim your story. Trauma thrives in silence, where shame hides. Talking shines a light on that shame. It enables you to process your pain and break free from the false beliefs it created.

Breaking Free from Shame: The Power of Healing Trauma

Shame and trauma often work together, creating an inescapable cycle. Shame tells you your story is too messy. It whispers, “If they knew the truth, they’d think less of you.” These lies don’t just hurt—they isolate and silence. You know healing begins when you face shame by talking about your trauma. I’m not gonna lie; this is a scary one.

Ignoring your story, however, gives shame power. It convinces you to stay quiet, telling you your pain is too much, your story too messy, or your wounds unworthy of attention. Silence doesn’t erase trauma. It strengthens it, keeping you stuck in fear and self-doubt. Healing starts with vulnerability. Each word is a step toward freedom. Speaking out declares, I am more than my pain.

Healing steps that have helped me:

• Healing is a process, and so is learning how to talk

• Trauma-informed therapy helps you process emotions

• Putting a label on your emotions gives you power over them

• Naming your shame unpacks the burden of guilt

• Treating yourself with kindness is a powerful antidote to shame

The Power of Shame

Shame has a way of silencing you. For so long, I believed the lie that what happened to me was my fault, that if I spoke up, I’d be judged, blamed, or dismissed. That shame became a prison, locking away my voice and convincing me that silence was safer than the truth.

But the lies—those used to cover up the abuse—became unbearable. They painted me as someone I wasn’t, twisting the narrative to protect the abuser while I bore the weight of the deception. I felt like I was drowning, not just from what had been done to me but from the constant pressure to pretend everything was fine. Breaking that cycle meant confronting both shame and lies. Speaking up was terrifying, and it took me years in my therapy to finally admit the truth.

Shame thrives in silence. It feeds on secrecy and grows stronger over time. Unlike guilt, which focuses on actions (“I did something wrong”), shame targets identity (“I am something wrong”). It convinces you that your worth is tied to your mistakes or pain.

For trauma survivors, this is incredibly damaging. Trauma already leaves you feeling powerless. Shame adds to this, telling you that you’re responsible for your pain or undeserving of healing. It creates a suffocating cycle: the more shame you feel, the less you speak. The less you speak, the stronger the shame becomes.

Breaking the Cycle

Talking about your trauma begins to break the cycle. Speaking out challenges the secrecy that shame depends on. Whether in therapy, with a friend, or through journaling, expressing your story creates space for healing.

When you tell your story, you reclaim it. You expose shame’s lies and replace them with truths: you are worthy, strong, and capable of healing. Talking won’t erase the trauma but robs it of its power.

Reclaiming Your Voice

Shame wants you to stay silent, but healing requires you to speak. You don’t need to tell everyone; find a safe person and safe spaces where you can begin. Each word you share breaks the mold of shame, one shard at a time.

You are not your trauma or shame. You are worthy of healing and worthy of being valued. The more you speak, the more you shatter the mold and reclaim your life.

Your story matters.

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Facing The Shadows

Mon, 25 Nov 2024 01:09:54 GMT

Hi friends! I want to express my gratitude for joining my platform.

I'm Branon Dempsey, and I have endured various forms of abuse from the age of 6 to 17. My goal is to support fellow survivors in their healing journey from past traumas. This mission is deeply personal to me as I am also in the process of healing. Building a community where we can support and motivate each other is important. It reminds us that we are not alone and fosters a sense of belonging and security.

Recently, I completed my autobiography named "Facing The Shadows," which recounts my survival of childhood sexual abuse. I am still on the path to recovery and working on another book. This upcoming book will not only share parts of my story but also provide a structured guide for survivors to find inspiration and tools for their own healing journey.

Where It Started

My family went through a divorce when I was five years old, with my father leaving us and my siblings following suit soon after. During this confusing time, I encountered numerous individuals in our neighborhood who took advantage of me physically and sexually. The situation only worsened when my father remarried and my stepbrother, who turned out to be my main abuser and troublemaker, joined our family. I turned to God for help at the age of nine, but the pain and trauma persisted. I faced battles of abandonment, manipulation, control, suicide attempts, substance abuse, and sexual abuse within my family and close circle of friends.

By the time I reached college, I had separated myself from those dangerous relationships. But then I carried treated trauma with me, which seemed to bring worse ramifications of trauma than the initial event itself. I came from a musical family. I have been a music and in the industry all my life. During my last years of college, I found myself to music in the church for the next 25 years. I thought that by developing my skills and serving God and people, the pain would fade away, but it just had an adverse effect. The reason is that I kept burying my pain, not only in my service to God but in my work, family, relationships, and friends. I lived a lie all my life, believing that I could forget my childhood pain as long as I could try to ignore it and act like it never happened.

After a while, I came to understand that I was constantly struggling with myself, waking up each day feeling defeated before even starting the fight. It became so overwhelming that I contemplated ending my life multiple times, leading to a few years consumed by depression. This constant inner battle took a heavy toll on me, emotionally and physically, from the pain, distress, and sadness I was enduring until I reached a breaking point. It was then that I acknowledged the need to break free from this cycle, but I felt trapped in my suffering, unsure of how to escape.

Beginning to Heal

By starting therapy, I began to confront the deep pain within me, particularly from my childhood. With the help of skilled therapists and resources, I slowly began to face and heal from the trauma that was affecting me so deeply. I not only discovered my true self and moved past my past struggles, but I also was finally able to express and release the pain that had been inside me for so long. There were moments during therapy when I found myself breaking down and crying for hours, overwhelmed by the emotional weight of 11 years of suffering. This experience helped me to understand the importance of confronting and dealing with inner pain in order to heal and move forward.

Even now, I constantly reflect on the painful events that have occurred. It's a common misconception that time will make trauma disappear, but in reality, burying and denying your pain only pushes it deeper. Trauma doesn't just fade away on its own, especially without proper treatment. I've realized that memories are like a camera in your mind, capturing everything that has happened.

The lasting impact of traumatic memories can be a difficult hurdle for many people to overcome. Revisiting painful images and memories can be incredibly challenging, as they are often ugly and difficult to face. The pain seems to always linger beneath the surface, waiting to resurface when least expected. It can feel overwhelming when the trauma finally demands to be dealt with, resembling a volcanic eruption. This was my own experience when confronting my trauma.

Triggered Trauma

My Path Today

Every day I work on my trauma, facing ups and downs. I've realized the importance of expressing my feelings, talking, staying connected to my mind, and moving forward. I invite you to join me on this journey, where we can support each other through dialogue. I'll be sharing my thoughts and updates on my book, "Facing The Shadows," here on my Substack. Thank you for being a part of this conversation and journey with me.